Official Daddyhunt
April 24, 2013
Category: Sexuality
"Put a Finger In It" - and Other Thoughts on Anal Play

We’re big fans of furry funnyman Greg Scarnici’s ability always find the humor in taboo topics, and his latest comedy video, “Put a Finger In It,” is no exception. This hilarious ode to the art of, umm, shall we say, “digital” love had us rolling, and we think you’ll give it two big thumbs up, too.

Now, we know some of you guys, particularly those who prefer the top bunk, might find the idea of having someone pull up to your bumper somewhat of a touchy subject, but we’re curious: does the desire for anal stimulation when you're getting your rod worked on mean you might secretly be a closet bottom?

The answer, at least according to this article we found on Psychology Today’s website, is not necessarily. In fact, it just means you’re completely normal. Turns out people of all sexual persuasions—including 24% of straight men—enjoy the art of the backdoor finger bang every once in a while.

So go ahead, all you top dogs out there, embrace your inner bottom. Better yet, share your favorite techniques for getting into the dig in the comments section. We promise nobody will point fingers. Well, unless you want them to.

RobHeartsDH
November 8, 2012
Category: Wellness

We've talked about this a few times this year, but I'm continually amazed at how much more open we are about discussing what it means to date and have sex in an HIV+ world. It's been an ongoing conversation, but what's beginning to change is the way in which we're talking about it. The stigma of having HIV, both within our own community and the world at large, is shrinking by the day. Due in part to the candor from both sides that we've seen in the media and the ever changing face of HIV medications. Big Daddy Carl, has written an incredibly thorough article over at the Huffington Post about pre-exposure prophylaxis, or PrEP, which, when taken daily by an HIV- person, can reduce the risk of transmission to that of using a condom.

There are many things to consider when you look at the merits of something like PrEP, which Carl outlines explicitly, but it begs the question of why this information isn't more readily available to the public. Let's face it, there will always be risk when it comes to gay sex, but would something preventative like taking a pill everyday make you feel safer? Or as a community that has been indoctrinated with the importance of condom use, are condoms the one and only protection against HIV? In an ideal world we'd all be using condoms and taking PrEP, but as you'll read there are obstacles preventing that from happening at this point in time.

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RobHeartsDH
March 27, 2012
Category: Sexuality
TheyFit

The biggest complaint about condoms is that not only are they uncomfortable, but they make sex less pleasurable. But what if that weren't the case? That's the question Joe Nelson is trying to answer with TheyFit custom-fitted condoms. We've heard of custom fitted condoms before, but he makes a good case for how they can make sex more enjoyable and why we should order them in bulk. Through their investigations, they found that the physical difference between condoms marketed as standard and extra-large was one millimeter of width. That's not a whole lot considering the wide range of length and girth variations we've all come to know and love. With 95 custom fitted sizes, and their handy measuring tool, chances are they'll have a size that's fits as it should. I just wonder how their return policy would work, should they not.

Do you think men would be more inclined to practice safer sex if it was indeed more pleasurable as they claim? Can anyone out there attest to using custom fitted condoms, and if so what was your experience like?

Let us know below.

RobHeartsDH
August 31, 2011
Category: Health

And that's ok. It's estimated that upwards of 50-80% of the population in North America has either Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) 1 or 2. There's such a stigma surrounding herpes, and most STDs really, that the subject matter is rarely discussed openly and honestly. Because of this, many of us have become grossly misinformed when it comes to best practices regarding our sexual health. In college I was part of an HIV and STD peer to peer prevention program, and up until a few weeks ago, thought I was well versed on the subject matter. As it turns out, I came across a pretty startling fact about HSV 1 and 2: transmission can occur from an infected partner who does not have a visible sore and may not know that he is infected. This was news to me, which made me wonder why more people don't know this crucial piece of information about the virus. "Both viral types [genital and oral] are easily transmitted to their site of preference, and can also be spread to other sites. Both are mostly contagious during active outbreaks, but are often spread through viral shedding when there are no recognizable symptoms." Shedding. I didn't even know what that was. But basically it's the thing trying to scare me back into being a big old prude, because there's no way to know when shedding occurs. So where does this leave us?

I started dating a very sexy someone recently and he revealed to me that he had genital herpes, most commonly cause by HSV2. Having just gotten a clean bill of health from my doctor on the STD front, I had a lot of questions to ask. Mainly, how can we...

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RobHeartsDH
April 20, 2011
Category: Health

Sometimes putting on a condom can take all the wind out of your sails. You're all heated up, sexually present in the moment, ready to go deep and hard, but then you have to put a condom on and things can sometimes take a pause. It can take you out of the moment in a very physical way, and then it'll be another 5+ minutes before you're ready to go deep and hard again. It's no fun, and it's one of the biggest complaints we hear and have about condoms. "It's hard to stay hard when I put one on." But if this new condom does what it promises, putting one on just got a hell of a lot more appealing.

If the CSD500 gets approved, "the Viagra of condoms," they'll be no more excuses for the fellas trying to wiggle their way out of wearing one. The condom stores Zanifil® in the tip of the condom, "which has been clinically proven to increase blood flow within the penis which in turn leads to increased firmness, increased penile size and longer duration of an erection." If these claims, which we've all heard before, are true, this could be the best thing to happen to safe sex since, well, ever!

Would you run out and buy one if/when they're released or does this new super condom sound too good to be true?

William Shindler
August 19, 2010
Category: Relationships

I got into an extended debate on Facebook recently when I challenged the notion that unrestrained sexual expression is more ”natural“ to humans than monogamy. I don’t deny that humans have engaged in non-monogamous behaviors (note I avoid the pejorative term ”promiscuity“) since the dawn of time. What I challenge is the usefulness of the notion of ”naturalness“ that implies there is some hardwired, biological justification for the choice gay men make to seek sexual experiences outside their primary relationships. The current science on the human brain informs us that the only thing natural about the brain in terms of sexual behavior is that it is nearly infinitely adaptable. If a society has promoted monogamy as an ideal, people have chosen, with notable exceptions, to embrace monogamy. If the societal attitude toward sex is some alternative to monogamy, the human brain adapts to that, too. Short of pathological sexual compulsion, in other words, human beings can choose how to behave sexually, either to remain exclusive to one partner or to engage in sex with many. Nature has nothing to do with it, and arguments employing “naturalness” as proof have been used to support both monogamy and polyamory, depending on the agenda of the one making the argument.

My position that I expressed in some detail in a previous Daddy Hunt blog entitled The Curse of Casual Sex is that, given our current sexual ecology, that is, the undeniable prevalence of incurable and in many cases life-...

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Kirk Read
May 27, 2009
Category: Health

Dear Kirk,
I have been dating an HIV+ man for about 2 months. We've had sex twice and the sex was great. Careful always, and  I've never found putting on a condom so erotic. He really knows how to make it sexy.  What I want to know is, I love to rim. This man has a GORGEOUS, hairy ass, and all I can think about is burying my face in it. How dangerous is this, and is there any way to do it safely? I'd like to know if it's considered low risk, high risk, or whatever, but I'd really also like to know if it CAN be done safely. I've heard that Saran Wrap, or something like it, can be used, but are these water soluble, or permeable, or whatever they call it. Please let me know, because I'm SO HUNGRY!!!

Dear Hungry Jack,

What’s more primal than sticking your nose up a guy’s butt? We really ARE dogs.

I’m not a doctor, but I spent a number of years as an HIV/STD test counselor in a small community-based clinic for sex workers. When you get safer sex information, you have to consider the source. Whether you’re shopping for a flat screen TV or learning about syphilis, I think it’s always good to gather information from multiple sources, then use your own judgment to determine what makes sense to you. In counseling sessions, I have spent a lot of time talking terrified people down from trees. Public health agencies have done such a good job scaring the hell out of us that many people have received simplistic and incorrect information about STD and HIV risk. By lumping everything together (oral sex, rimming...

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