RobHeartsDH
May 29, 2013
Category: Wellness

Over at Lifehacker they're exploring the difference between antiperspirants and deodorants and how they work. Now since we all know and love to debate our pit scents here, I figured it'd be a good article to bring to everyone's attention. Personally, I use antiperspirants if only to avoid pit stains (as much as one can) at work. But I do get nervous about what I'm putting on my body (aluminium chlorohydrate and aluminium zirconium tetrachlorohydrate) and the oftentimes chalky and oddly textured residue that stays on them long after the day is through. If I could guarantee the degree of my pit stank I would venture to wear nothing at all, but even I know that there are days when going sans any protection can leave me smelling unattractively rank. There's a wonderful happy medium I've found when after a long hot day the antiperspirant has worn off and the scent from that mixes with my own that (to me at least) seems pretty pleasant. I'm wondering if that has the same effect as my natural scent when it comes to attracting men.

But I turn it over to you dear readers. What do you prefer to wear or not wear on your underarms? And have you been able to key in on what makes for natural and attractive smelling man made musk?

RobHeartsDH
April 17, 2013
Category: Wellness

This powerful new commercial for Dove may be about the way in which women perceive themselves, but this idea isn't exclusive to women. In fact, I'd say many men, especially gay men, share in the inaccurate ways we see ourselves. Body dysmorphia, when a person has a negative distortion of his/her body image, is extremely prevalent in our society. With so much emphasis on beauty, and in our community, having the "perfect body," it's no wonder our perceptions are so out of whack. We're constantly comparing ourselves to what we see in the media (porn included) that we sometimes can't see ourselves and how beautiful we really are. This brilliant ad is eye opening and I hope that it's message of beauty in all forms extends not just to women but to all of us.

Today, take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror and appreciate all that you are. You may not see it now, but the rest of the world certainly does.

RobHeartsDH
January 2, 2013
Category: Wellness
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All too often we front load our new year with resolutions we break with the first three months. Even when we take broader strokes and just come with a few long running goals, they're easy to lose sight as the year goes on and life happens as it does. For the past few years, I've tried to come up with one mantra for the year to keep me in check. Last year it was to live 2012 like it was the last one on earth (because, for all we knew it could have been). This year it's to accept the things I cannot change and work hard at the elements of my life that I can. Sound familiar? It's a more action based variation on the Serenity Prayer. And while I plan to live my life by this theme all year long, it occurred to me that change can happen at any moment. It doesn't have to be the month of January to start making your life a better one to live. And that's probably a better way to look at the year ahead. Not as a way of putting things off, but remembering that no matter how far off track you get or where you end up that things can turn around when you want them to. As Deepak Chopra is quoted as saying, "Now is the moment that never ends."

A lot of people list getting a boyfriend as a resolution. But when it comes to meeting someone, sometimes there's only so much we can do. Being on this site, that's a really great start. But what about making yourself the best you you can possibly be? Wouldn't it be great if you could add a newly discovered interest to your profile? Or maybe grow that mustache or...

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RobHeartsDH
December 1, 2012
Category: Wellness
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We've spent quite a few posts discussing HIV/AIDS this year. It's been forever linked to our community, but this year more than ever the dialogue has opened up and gotten more attention than ever in more hopeful ways. From the addition to prevention methods such as PrEP, as discussed by our very own Carl Sandler in the Huffington Post, to moving documentaries about the beginning of the epidemic like How to Survive a Plague, to more media attention to archaic HIV Criminalization laws (and the advocates fighting to repeal them) HIV/AIDS has had a year with a bit of hope. And yet, the news that young people ages 13 to 24 account for 26 percent of all new HIV infections, according to the report by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, still means we have a lot more work to do.

Today, on World AIDS Day, we first want to take a moment to encourage everyone on here to know your status and practice safe sex, but also to reflect on those we lost. While we may be making progress, if it weren't for the friends, family, and lovers we lost along the way, those steps forwards may never have happened.

Please take a moment to post in the comments...

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RobHeartsDH
November 21, 2012
Category: Wellness

I've thought long and hard this year about what I'm grateful for this holiday season. And while this year has brought maybe more downs than ups, there's still so much to appreciate in this world. And what better way to reinforce that than by sharing with friends and taking a moment to reflect on what's good in this world. So let's all go around the dinner table blog and say what we're thankful for.

The 10 Things I'm Most Thankful For This Year

1. Honesty
I put this at the top of my life because it's importance becomes all the more apparent when your life is void of it. For those that are honest and respectful no matter what the cost, I salute you and ask you to continue on with being true to yourself and to others.

2. Friends
Whether they're doing the robot with you in a crowded bar or giving you a shoulder to lean on during an emotional breakup, the family we choose to build, our friends, are what make life worth living.

3. New Connections
You never know where a new friend will lead you. And when you do meet someone new who lights up your world, there's not a thing in this world that's better than that.

4. Beards
I just can't get enough of them.

5. Dogs
Specifically my pug Riley who has added so many smiles to this world (most of which are my own, but also people who see him on the street).

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RobHeartsDH
November 8, 2012
Category: Wellness

We've talked about this a few times this year, but I'm continually amazed at how much more open we are about discussing what it means to date and have sex in an HIV+ world. It's been an ongoing conversation, but what's beginning to change is the way in which we're talking about it. The stigma of having HIV, both within our own community and the world at large, is shrinking by the day. Due in part to the candor from both sides that we've seen in the media and the ever changing face of HIV medications. Big Daddy Carl, has written an incredibly thorough article over at the Huffington Post about pre-exposure prophylaxis, or PrEP, which, when taken daily by an HIV- person, can reduce the risk of transmission to that of using a condom.

There are many things to consider when you look at the merits of something like PrEP, which Carl outlines explicitly, but it begs the question of why this information isn't more readily available to the public. Let's face it, there will always be risk when it comes to gay sex, but would something preventative like taking a pill everyday make you feel safer? Or as a community that has been indoctrinated with the importance of condom use, are condoms the one and only protection against HIV? In an ideal world we'd all be using condoms and taking PrEP, but as you'll read there are obstacles preventing that from happening at this point in time.

I urge you all to ...

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RobHeartsDH
May 26, 2012
Category: Wellness

Wishing all our members a happy and safe Memorial Day (and IML) Weekend! 

This being the unofficial kickoff, what are you most looking forward to this summer?

RobHeartsDH
March 22, 2012
Category: Wellness

You'd think by now there'd be a cure for baldness. Scientist have been researching the genetic predisposition for decades now and still there's not much in the way of a full on cure for it. Did you know that Propecia was discovered accidentally? And while it's fairly effective, there's been no real progress on finding a cure. But now scientist are closer according to a new study from the University of Pennsylvania. As it turns out the tissue in bald areas has 3x the concentration of Prostaglandin, a fatty compound, and these findings could directly to new treatments for hair loss in men.

Which leads me to today's big question: for those of you who rock the bald look, if you could grow it back would you?

RobHeartsDH
March 8, 2012
Category: Wellness

I probably say it all the time, but I hate shaving. The reason my beard exists, basically boils down to the fact that I'm a lazy mo' fo who doesn't want to shave his face on a daily (or even weekly) basis. But back when I did, I was a Mach 3 guy. I tried electric razors but they just made me break out, which when doubled with a freshly shaven face made the pimples even more apparent. Eventually I let it all grow in and now do minimal maintenance on it each week or so. Yesterday, I came across this brazen little video that offers you brand new razors shipped to your door every month. Aside from my aforementioned laziness, a dull razor the biggest hindrance in shaving my face everyday. My facial hair is pretty coarse, like most, so my razors generally last for a few shaves and then cut my face to pieces. I've been debating loosing the beard, and I'm slightly intrigued by this proposition the Dollar Shave Club has to offer. It's an interesting approach, and for those of you like me, it saves you a lot of time (and maybe money?) not having to go out and buy new razors every 5 seconds. Though I wonder how many good shave you actually get per blade. What do you think?

When it comes to shaving your face, how often do you and what kind of razor do you use? Let's share some tips and tricks in the comments below to remedy cuts, breakouts, and general laziness.

RobHearts
February 6, 2012
Category: Wellness

Going to the gym is hard. Staying motivated, reaching your goals, keeping things interesting: makes it even harder. I'm trying my best this winter to not hibernate and pack on the pounds, even though December kind of did me in. But Spring is just around the corner, which means Summer shirtless-ness is inevitable.

How many of you out there drink protein before or after your workouts? I've been on the protein bus for a few years now and the results have been great. But lately I've been thinking more and more about what I'm putting into my body. All the chemicals, and additives - it doesn't always make me feel as healthy as I should post workout.

I recently had the pleasure of chatting with Greg, one of our very own Daddyhunt members who created Whey Natural! USA. I have to say, after trying some samples, I feel better drinking something that I know is 100% natural. And after trying the different flavors, I can tell you that you can taste the difference - big time. But I think Greg said it best in one of our exchanges:

"At 64 years of age I definitely feel the difference. I have more energy and a youthful overall feeling. Knowing that it builds up my immune system, I haven't had a cold this winter and the weather in North Florida has been pretty screwed up."

He also said that beyond gym goers and athletes, Whey Natural! USA is good for those that have had bypass surgery (cardiovascular and bariatric), cancer patients going through chemo, diabetics, seniors in need of nursing care,...

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