RobHeartsDH
May 8, 2013
Category: Sexuality

A new study suggests that gay men have fewer sex partners. "The mean number of male sexual partners MSM reported in the previous year fell significantly from 2.9 to 2.3 between the two surveys (p = 0.035) and was more marked in men under 24 years old (mean 2.9 to 2.1 partners, p = 0.027). The number of partners also fell in men aged 35 to 44 from 3.0 to 2.2, though this was not quite statistically significant (p = 0.07)." Through the different demos there was a consistent (if not hugely significant) drop in the number of sexual partners, which leads me to wonder if marriage equality is starting to have an effect on our community as a whole. Could it be that with the new possibility of legally settling down with someone a shift is beginning in how we date and hook up? It's probably too early to say, but based on this study it's definitely a possibility.

Unfortunately while the number of sexual partners has dropped, the rates of HIV and STDs have risen. But still some hopeful news is that the number of gay men who had never been tested for HIV fell from 25% to 15%.

With new legal possibilities and views about how we love and live, will there be a shift in the way we think about sexual partners?

RobHeartsDH
April 29, 2013
Category: Sexuality

It can be pretty mind blowing when you sync up with someone your dating or hooking up with sexually. For all the variable that go into the relationship equation, when 2 bodies together equal great sex, I'd call that a big win. Everyone brings something different to the sexual table, whether that's giving good head, good rim jobs, or being one hell of a great kisser, and this is when we can take these superlative studs and learn from them. After all sexual exploration is all about experience and gaining knowledge about what you like/don't like and learning new techniques. I would say of all the reasons to have an open relationship, bringing home something new to your skill set is one of the least discussed. And it can do wonders for your sex life. Even as a singleton, when you find someone who's the best at what they do, it can be life changing. It had been a while since I had a great kisser in my life and recently dated someone that reminded me of how good it can be when lips works together to make magic.

But now I want to open the floor to all of you, think of the comments as a sales floor and sell us on your best sexual skill set is. Or tell us a tale of the best you've ever had below.

Official Daddyhunt
April 24, 2013
Category: Sexuality
"Put a Finger In It" - and Other Thoughts on Anal Play

We’re big fans of furry funnyman Greg Scarnici’s ability always find the humor in taboo topics, and his latest comedy video, “Put a Finger In It,” is no exception. This hilarious ode to the art of, umm, shall we say, “digital” love had us rolling, and we think you’ll give it two big thumbs up, too.

Now, we know some of you guys, particularly those who prefer the top bunk, might find the idea of having someone pull up to your bumper somewhat of a touchy subject, but we’re curious: does the desire for anal stimulation when you're getting your rod worked on mean you might secretly be a closet bottom?

The answer, at least according to this article we found on Psychology Today’s website, is not necessarily. In fact, it just means you’re completely normal. Turns out people of all sexual persuasions—including 24% of straight men—enjoy the art of the backdoor finger bang every once in a while.

So go ahead, all you top dogs out there, embrace your inner bottom. Better yet, share your favorite techniques for getting into the dig in the comments section. We promise nobody will point fingers. Well, unless you want them to.

RobHeartsDH
January 23, 2013
Category: Sexuality

Money for sex has been around since the beginning of time. It's one of those fun facts that pop up at bars and parties: prostitution being the world's oldest profession. I was recently talking to a friend who's an escort and he was lamenting how hard it is to find someone to date given his line of work. We talked about it at length citing all the reasons it could be a problem for someone: jealousy issues, judgmental friends and family, safety, etc. But even today and with how open and configurable relationships and minds can be, it still seems like dating a sex worker can be a little taboo. I'm curious, what people's thoughts on the matter are. For the purposes of this conversation, let's use the word "sex worker" as a catchall for hookers, escorts, and porn stars. I add porn stars because while we all have fantasies about them, I wonder how okay everyone is with actually dating one. It may come down to something as simple as, I need someone who's got a 9 to 5 job - but what if they do? I think it's easy to write sex workers off as lacking substance, but I know plenty with brains, grace, and heart that lead pretty normal lives. And it's my belief that no one on this earth is any position to judge so what's the big deal?

Here's a few questions for you that should incite some lively conversations in the comments below. Feel free to answer any and all that you're comfortable with:

1. Would/Have you ever date/d a sex worker? If so, what was your experience.
2. Would/Have you ever pay/paid for sex or company? If so, what was your experience.

RobHeartsDH
May 18, 2012
Category: Sexuality
Oral

I love giving head. Next to eating burritos and snuggling, it's probably one of my favorite things to do. But you know what? I'm not a huge fan of getting head. They're fine, and I've had a few really good ones, but it's just one of those things that doesn't do it for me. In the heat of the moment they can add to the fun of flipping and flopping power, but I guess I always want them to be more exciting then they are. Am I alone in this?

If I'm not alone in this, and you're not into it either, then where does that leave the ones who like to go down? I guess it's the same problem we run into if everyone is a bottom. In an ideal world we'd all be 100% versatile (just think about how much more we narrow the dating pool by not being positionally compatible). It always seems like getting head is the considered one of the greatest things in the world. Straight culture especially seems to laud the act with the highest of praise, but I can't help but wonder if I'm missing something.

Can we talk BJs? Let us know what you prefer, how you prefer it, and if sexual compatability has been an obstacle for you before.

RobHeartsDH
April 30, 2012
Category: Sexuality
Pits

I have a friend who yells at me every time he smells me. He prefers I let my natural scent run free instead of wearing a scented deodorant. The problem is, I get pretty darn stinky when I don't wear it. But I get where he's coming from, as I too enjoy the nice natural scent of man. Apparently the straight world is getting in on the pheromone fun too. So let's open up the discussion, do you prefer your men fragrance free or like them synthetically scented?

I will say one thing, when it comes to licking pits, freshly washed is the only way to go. Whether it's deodorant in your mouth or the stank that sticks to your tongue, it makes for a mouthful of yuck.

RobHeartsDH
March 27, 2012
Category: Sexuality
TheyFit

The biggest complaint about condoms is that not only are they uncomfortable, but they make sex less pleasurable. But what if that weren't the case? That's the question Joe Nelson is trying to answer with TheyFit custom-fitted condoms. We've heard of custom fitted condoms before, but he makes a good case for how they can make sex more enjoyable and why we should order them in bulk. Through their investigations, they found that the physical difference between condoms marketed as standard and extra-large was one millimeter of width. That's not a whole lot considering the wide range of length and girth variations we've all come to know and love. With 95 custom fitted sizes, and their handy measuring tool, chances are they'll have a size that's fits as it should. I just wonder how their return policy would work, should they not.

Do you think men would be more inclined to practice safer sex if it was indeed more pleasurable as they claim? Can anyone out there attest to using custom fitted condoms, and if so what was your experience like?

Let us know below.

RobHeartsDH
March 9, 2012
Category: Sexuality
Today in Masturbation

There really haven't been any new developments in the past century when it comes to masturbation. Maybe lube was an exciting discovery, but before that there was spit. Bottom line is, the one or two handed wank is a pretty easy endeavor and get's the job done. Most would say, "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." And I would agree, but I'd like to think that even with an age old practice like jerking off there's still room for improvement. Yes, there are Fleshlights and they're a helluva lot of fun, but they're also a bit of a process. I guess what I'm getting at is that for the day to day strokey stroke, there's really nothing new. Enter the JackStrap (NSFW), a little pliable device that let's you give your balls a tug while you work your shaft (click through to see how it works). Just this morning I was doing my thing and thinking to myself how much I enjoy cupping my balls while I do it (true story). So for the timing alone on coming across this, color me interested. I am a little worried about how hard it will pull and how tight it will be, but I would give it a try just to spice up my usual self stimulating routine.

What do your twig and berries have to say about this? Is an additional tool for your tool needed or should we just keep things simple?

Wax on below.

RobHeartsDH
January 18, 2012
Category: Sexuality

In my internet travels today, I came across this video from Perfume Genius featuring Arpad Miklos.

It's the debut single from his new album, Put Your Back N 2 It and I think I kind of liked it. But that's not what we're here to talk about today. Most of us in the Daddy/Bear community love and lust after Arpad - no secret there. What makes this video special and creepy to me is at the 1:36 mark. Because here it goes folks: I once had a wet dream about Freddy Krueger. Yes, horribly disfigured, movie monster, fingers-for-knives Freddy Krueger. So to see Arpad in the mask and glove creeps me out to the nth degree...because Arpad is hot...Freddy is not...and now my penis is confused. But there's my embarrassing sex dream confession to you all. I hope you'll do me a solid here and share your embarrassing sex dream stories and any other oddities you feel like confessing today.

Don't leave me out here all my lonesome. Please.

RobHeartDH
December 16, 2011
Category: Sexuality

Here's some Friday frivolity for you: singer Johnny McGovern is dickamatized. In the singer's new song is funny enough, but the hot guys in mesh shorts are what really sell the video.

To put it simply, being dickmatized is when you stay with a guy simply because the sex is good. You're basically powerless to a stop going back to this person because when it to comes to sexy times, he knows what he's doing and then some. Whether you love his cock, the way he fucks, or his oh so perfect lips, you'll pretty much do anything to keep getting the good stuff. And as most of know, if you're dickmatized you will find almost any excuse to go back to this person even if they end up treating you like shit. There's only one way to break the spell, and that's to find someone who actually appreciates you and/or realizing your self worth - whichever comes first.

Have you ever been dickmatized? If so, let us know how you broke free!