RobHeartsDH
June 12, 2012
Category: Relationships

New York City is probably one of the best places for a gay man to be single. It's also one of the worst to be single and looking for a serious relationship. Then again, I thought that Pittsburgh was a terrible place to be a single relationship seeking gay man, and now it's on a list of the Top 10 Cities Where Gay Singles Are Looking For Marriage And Kids. Keep in mind, this list doesn't tell you the best places to secure a man seeking a serious relationship, but rather where the men are looking for one. Whether it's lack of options or lack of focus, it seems that all the friends I talk to around the world are unhappy with where they live in regards to being a single gay man. I've thought about leaving NYC more than a few times, but wonder if the city is really the problem.

So I ask, do you feel that where you live has negatively or positively affected your dating life?

RobHeartsDH
February 21, 2012
Category: Relationships

Next time you're trying to talk your friend out of getting back together with their ex for the umpteenth time, just point them here. Now there's proof that getting back together with your ex is a terrible idea. Just take a look at the findings from a Kansas State University study:

"Couples in a cyclical relationship tended to be more impulsive about major relationship transitions -- like moving in together, buying a pet together or having a child together -- than those not in a cyclical relationship. As a result, the couples in cyclical relationships tended to be less satisfied with their partner; had worse communication; made more decisions that negatively affected the relationship; had lower self-esteem; and had a higher uncertainty about their future together.

The researchers found that couples said they got back together because they believed their partner had changed for the better or that communications had improved -- but the results indicated otherwise. Additionally, other couples stated that the relationship continued because it was unclear if they had actually ended their romance."

This is all kinds of comforting to know. Just think of how many times you went to pick up the phone to call an ex or tried to start things up again and landed right back where you started. There's a great finality to this study that makes me feel at peace with not reaching out to an ex ever again, no matter how many incredible nights you had...

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February 14, 2012
Category: Relationships

Hey guys, we just want to let you all know that the DH Team thinks everyone within our community is the bee's knees, the cat's meow and luscious hunks of burning love!

The Valentines holiday is suppose to be a fun day. If you're single, today is the perfect day to show some self-love any way that works for you. Or even better, how about you drop a note to that guy you've been drooling over here on Daddyhunt or MISTER and ask him out? We dare you! Who knows, he might be the one and if not, you can never have too many friends.

We'd love to hear what you do to make this day special. A quiet dinner? A little role-playing? Spa day? A fresh bottle of Gun Oil with the goal to use every last drop? Inspire us with your creativity and the rich mind behind the best comment gets a very special gift.

However you spend this day, enjoy it!

XOXO,

The DH Team


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RobHeartsDH
February 8, 2012
Category: Relationships
I Fucking Love To Cuddle

I think we can all agree, sometimes you need a good fuck. But how many out there just need a good cuddle? I live for cuddling. And don't get me wrong, I love sexy times as much as the next guy - and ideally I want both - but lately I just want someone in my bed to watch a movie with. The problem is, the channels in which to find this are scarce. Most guys online or on the street are looking to get off, and again, that's needed, but I just want someone to stay afterwards and hang out for a bit. But this is easier said than done. For one, personalities don't always mesh. You can have incredible mind blowing sex and then, well, then things can go terrifyingly awkward. Doesn't make sense, but it happens. And you can't just call someone over for a cuddle that you haven't met yet. Groundwork needs to be laid, drinks or food need to be shared, and then maybe cuddles are appropriate. Above all else, you can't call exes to cuddle. You just can't. You can call an ex for sex (though, still not a great idea), but a cuddle is out of the question. Mostly because cuddles can sometimes be more intimate than sex. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but oftentimes I feel closer to someone when cuddling than I do when boning. Which again makes finding a random cuddle so damn hard. I'd love to have a little black book of cuddles, but even that seems difficult to fill. As previously stated, plucking a stranger out of the blue to cuddle just won't do and it takes all the fun out of it if you don't know the guy.

I dated someone this summer and after a few starts and stops we decided to do the...

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RobHeartsDH
December 19, 2011
Category: Relationships

This should get you in the holiday spirit if you're not already there. These real life gay daddies get some incredible news from their kids. Their reactions are pretty priceless, so I won't say much more than that. But gosh darnit if this didn't get my heart all roasty on an open fire. It's so wonderful to see fully developed gay families happy and normal as some of the world may not want you to believe.

What's the best news you've ever gotten around the holidays?

RobHeartDH
December 16, 2011
Category: Sexuality

Here's some Friday frivolity for you: singer Johnny McGovern is dickamatized. In the singer's new song is funny enough, but the hot guys in mesh shorts are what really sell the video.

To put it simply, being dickmatized is when you stay with a guy simply because the sex is good. You're basically powerless to a stop going back to this person because when it to comes to sexy times, he knows what he's doing and then some. Whether you love his cock, the way he fucks, or his oh so perfect lips, you'll pretty much do anything to keep getting the good stuff. And as most of know, if you're dickmatized you will find almost any excuse to go back to this person even if they end up treating you like shit. There's only one way to break the spell, and that's to find someone who actually appreciates you and/or realizing your self worth - whichever comes first.

Have you ever been dickmatized? If so, let us know how you broke free!

RobHeartsDH
November 18, 2011
Category: Relationships

This is your weekly reminder that love exists and can grow 5 decades strong. The Devotion Project is a series of short documentary films celebrating LGBT couples of all kinds, the first of which is is now available to view on youtube. More Than Ever, which chronicles the 54 year love story of William I. Campbell and John V. Hilton is well worth it's 9 minute run time and won Audience Award for Best Short at Newfest: The New York Gay & Lesbian Film Festival in July 2011. Looking forward to the other videos on their way in the next few months.

In the meantime, if you've got a story of devotion to share, we're always up to hear inspiring stories in the love department in the comments below.

Photo: John Hilton and Bill Campbell, Cherry Grove, Fire Island, 1962

RobHeartsDH
July 5, 2011
Category: Relationships

This is may be kind of a bizarre post and request, but I want each of you to read this article on infidelity and marriage from the New York Times and then pass it on to 5 other people, preferably a few straight people. In the midst of all the gaiety that's happened, this extremely detailed and thorough article popped up and I think it's something that everyone should read. Whether you want to marry or are just seeking a long term relationship, there are so many nuances that go into such things that we never discuss. This article seems to tap into the crux of relationship sustainability and how important it is to tailor your relationship to you and you partner. Knowing yourselves well enough helps to navigate a healthy relationship in which both parties needs are met.

With the avalanche of gay marriage momentum we expect to gather in the coming months and year, I've often wonder if it would change the way we gays approach relationships. If by chance, more men would cut down on the bed hopping and give relationships a chance. That the validity in being recognized legally would somehow make the option of settling down a bit more real. I was hopeful of this possibility, but the realist in me thinks that a little legality in the matter of long term relationships isn't going to miraculously change the way some men view dating. That being said, I wish the thesis of this article was something I was taught when I was younger to better align my...

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RobHeartsDH
July 5, 2011
Category: Relationships

This is may be kind of a bizarre post and request, but I want each of you to read this article on infidelity and marriage from the New York Times and then pass it on to 5 other people, preferably a few straight people. In the midst of all the gaiety that's happened, this extremely detailed and thorough article popped up and I think it's something that everyone should read. Whether you want to marry or are just seeking a long term relationship, there are so many nuances that go into such things that we never discuss. This article seems to tap into the crux of relationship sustainability and how important it is to tailor your relationship to you and you partner. Knowing yourselves well enough helps to navigate a healthy relationship in which both parties needs are met.

With the avalanche of gay marriage momentum we expect to gather in the coming months and year, I've often wonder if it would change the way we gays approach relationships. If by chance, more men would cut down on the bed hopping and give relationships a chance. That the validity in being recognized legally would somehow make the option of settling down a bit more real. I was hopeful of this possibility, but the realist in me thinks that a little legality in the matter of long term relationships isn't going to miraculously change the way some men view dating. That being said, I wish the thesis of this article was something I was taught when I was younger to better align my...

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RobHeartsDH
July 3, 2011
Category: Relationships

Stop me if you heard this one before: You're on a date with a guy you're super attracted to. Everything's going well, the conversation's flowing, eye flirtations are at their peak level; it's clear where this night is heading. You go back to the house and get with the kissing and touching and...nothing. There's nothing there. No chemistry, no want, no interest. And you think to yourself, "What the hell is going on? I just had a great date with someone who 2 minutes ago I couldn't wait to get with the bone jumping and now that we're here it's not at what I had hoped for." What gives?

This is just another example of how seemingly impossible meeting the right guy can be. Because even though everything else is poppin', sexual chemistry can be your downfall. And it's not that either party is bad at what they're doing, it's just they there are different needs and desires that don't quite sync up. One wants a little more push, the other a little more pull. Or maybe they have a style of kissing that just doesn't jive with our lips. Or maybe it turns out you're both big ol' bottoms. My question for all of you out there is how should one remedy such a problem? After all, sexual compatibility isn't everything, but it's still a huge part of relationships.

It's been my experience that most of the time, real sexual chemistry can't be manufactured. If it's not there, it's usually not coming. However, it is possible, and I think smart given the stakes of finding a good man, to have an open and honest discussion about what you're looking for with your partner (be he new...

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