The DH Team
April 9, 2019
Category: Relationships

Gay culture, not unlike other cultures, is often perceived to be all about stereotypes. This is never truer than in any of the 'named' cultures (Bear, Leather, S&M, etc.). The ‘Daddy/hunter’ community is no different. As a Daddy who spends a lot of time, much too much time, I have to admit, online chatting, I get frustrated when I hear perfectly attractive hunters bemoaning the fact they can’t find a Daddy to date because they aren’t (insert stereotypical requirement here): young, slender, smooth, tall, athletic, etc.

Really, guys, Daddies don't all expect, require, or desire the same things. All you need to do is spend 5 minutes perusing the Daddyhunt profiles to see that, just like Daddies exist in all different shapes and sizes, Daddies have every different kind of taste and interest imaginable. You can find profiles of Daddies looking for girlie guys, masculine guys, tall guys, short guys, hairy guys, smooth guys, and on and on and on.

Some Daddies seem to prefer only younger, smoother, etc., but not all. Not every Daddy lives up to the presumed stereotype. Not all Daddies spend their entire lives chronically in search of some 'perfect' guy who meets some idealized, unrealistic standard. Okay, I admit, Daddies do tend to prefer that the guys they desire find older guys appealing, but then, who of us doesn’t want to be thought of as sexy? I know THIS DADDY certainly does! Not all Daddies have some unreasonable expectation that any guy they pursue be both perfect and static (i.e. always looking young and hot, etc.).

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M & P Melbourne
April 3, 2019
Category: Relationships

We have been paying DaddyHunt customers for about eight months. After an absence of around four years we returned to DH, as the national app we’d previously been paying through the nose for, had proven an expensive waste of time.

As a committed, longtime male couple seeking a significant younger other, optimistically we became paying “supporters” of DaddyHunt.com, trusting in its advertising that there are young men in our country who are genuinely interested in a variety of older men.

This may indeed be the case. Even so, at the same time, we wondered whether other people had considered a sizeable number of young gay men (in any country) would be grateful to DaddyHunt for legitimising their ambiguous search for security; just as many older men would be grateful for having validated their “right” to re-connect with youth? All this begged the question where does reality end, and fantasy begin? After all, isn’t the idea of a successful younger and older union a patriarchal wet dream, proselytised by Hollywood over the past century?

In our view, if love is to exist between younger and older men, and be meaningful today, there needs to be a connection. In an age of disposable, disingenuous social media, this may be easier said than done. Which is to say the connection is not something facilitated by dashing-off five-word sentences in haste, messaged once a fortnight. And nor is it assured by either man singularly dedicating himself to produce what the media has insisted is a priceless, “marketable body”.

For inter-generational relationships to...

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March 5, 2019
Category: Relationships

We've all got 'em. Whether it's ear hair or baby talk, dealbreakers have become a necessary part of navigating the world of dating. But when should they come into play? Maybe you have friends that date with Seinfeldian levels of dealbreakers and run at the first sign of something they don't like. But everyone deserves a fair chance and even things that we think we have a hardline on can shift when you get to know someone. The question becomes: When you do have a hardline, and you're having a good time with someone, when is the right time to bring up potential roadblocks?

Honesty is great and severely needed in any stage of a relationship, but in many cases timing is key. By definition, a dealbreaker requires calling the whole thing off. But it's never really that simple. For instance, what if the supposed dealbreaker is something that can be tweaked, changed, or brought to their attention? We're not advocating trying to change someone, because in most cases you will fail, but what if communicating your position could make them rethink their behavior? In some cases, the relationship may be more important than what's breaking the deal. We ask all these questions because there are times when being confident and swift in the choices you make can you help you cut out some of the bullshit inherent to dating. It can also make us miss out on something truly life changing when we're quick to judge and decide (especially in the world of online dating). At the end of the day, which should win out?

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RobHeartsDH
February 17, 2014
Category: Sexuality

Not to be a downer, but more and more I feel like open relationships are an inevitability. I've let go of the dream of soul mates and falling in love forever, but I think I may need to let go of the dream of monogamy too. It's not that it can't happen, but it just doesn't seem like we're programmed that way. It'll take some recalibrating on my generations part, but maybe it'll be easier if it's taught at a younger age. There certainly would be less disappointment. I guess I've always been curious about sexuality from a primal perspective. What are our natural instincts? What are we internally programmed to want and do? When you remove societal pressures and norms, were we really ever supposed to mate for life?

It's not a lot, but this video at least debunks the theory that much of the animal kingdom mates for life and that it's not just a human thing to do:

Animals aside, what are your thoughts on monogamy? Do you think it's possible to be monogamous and still be satisfied? Let us know in the comments below.

Official Daddyhunt
January 9, 2014
Category: Relationships
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Now that we've officially dubbed 2014 “The Year of the Daddy,” we hope you’re on your way to achieving the goals (don’t call them resolutions!) you’ve set for yourself to help make the next 365 days as daddylicious as they can be. Not that it’s going to be easy. Truth is, some of the biggest self-improvement promises we make to ourselves—eating better, getting in shape, building healthier relationships—are way easier said than done. But hang in there, guys, we’re gonna do our best to help you stay on track!

Okay, we can’t promise to snatch that donut out of your hand or make sure you get your butt to the gym three times a week, but if you need some advice on keeping your love life in tip-top shape, listen up! Better yet, listen to what MISTER CEO and our resident relationship expert, Carl Sandler, had to say about some of the unique challenges of daddy dating—including mismatched sex drives, uneven incomes, and dealing with disapproving family and friends—during his latest appearance on Sirius OutQ’s “The Morning Jolt with Larry Flick” radio show. Whether you’re determined to land yourself a dashing daddy, test the relationship waters with a strapping younger buck, or make your current daddy-son situation stronger in 2014, this is a must-listen.

Click the play button below to hear how it all went down. Also, be sure to check out these inspiring examples of...

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Official Daddyhunt
December 13, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

A few weeks ago, we had some fun telling you about a few of our favorite Gay Daddy-Son Relationships That Shocked the World. All this talk about Tom Daley and Justin Lance Black pairing up made us want to highlight three inspiring cross-generational couples who prove that when it comes to May-December loving, age ain't nothing but a number.

Christopher Isherwood 
and Don Bachardy
Life wasn’t always a cabaret for esteemed British novelist Christopher Isherwood, whose semi-autobiographical tales of a closeted gay man living in pre-Nazi Germany were collected in the best-selling book The Berlin Stories, but that all changed when he met 18-year-old Don Bachardy on a Santa Monica beach in 1952. Despite their 30-year age difference—not to mention it being the era of McCarthyism, one of the most homophobic periods in American history—the pair began a high-profile love affair that would last more than three decades. While their relationship was idyllic in many ways, with Isherwood helping his younger lover develop his affinity for drawing and painting and the couple frequently entertaining well-known artists, writers, and movie stars in their hillside Santa Monica home, it wasn’t always without its challenges. In fact, at times the May-December dramas may have seemed like something out of a movie, and indeed, it became one—“Chris & Don: A...

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Official Daddyhunt
September 20, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

All relationships are complicated, perhaps none more so than those between daddies and their younger paramours. We’ve heard it from many of you firsthand: from finances to mismatched sex drives to having to deal with total strangers (or worse, family and friends) giving you and your stud the side eye when you walk down the street, Daddy-Son relationships bring a whole host of unique challenges and relationship issues. They can also be some of the best, fieriest, and most fulfilling relationships around. But when they fizzle, you’d best believe the sparks will fly! Just for fun, we’ve cherry-picked a few of the most notorious and talked-about Daddy-Son relationships the world has ever witnessed. Consider them cautionary tales when it comes to May-December romancing. And count your blessings you weren’t involved in any of them.

Calvin Klein and Nick Gruber

Calvin Klein is infamous for raising temperatures with his racy ad campaigns, but it was his relationship with army soldier turned gay porn model Nick Gruber, 47 years his junior, that had his friends and fans raising their eyebrows. The 70-year-old fashion designer was reportedly so smitten with the then-19-year-old Gruber after seeing a picture of him posing in nothing but a green jacket (as a nude model, Gruber went under the name Aaron Skyline) that he launched a full-blown sugar-daddy assault on the young man, moving him into a multi-million-dollar New York City apartment, giving him a full makeover (complete with a...

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RobHeartsDH
July 8, 2013
Category: Relationships

Has this ever happened to you: meet a guy, flirt a bunch, exchange numbers, make plans to meet...and then find out he has a boyfriend. Sadly, it happens more than it should. With couples in different arrangements and singles with different objectives navigating the pick up water can be difficult. I'm of the belief that if there's clear interest from one party, the other is obligated to bring up the boyfriend (in some way) within the first interaction. I'll even give a little leeway here and say the first two interactions given how hard it can be to weave that point in naturally. In chatting with some coupled friends though, they believe that they're not obligated to reveal a boyfriend. Claiming that they've often been met with attitude or anger in the assumption that they were even hitting on them and that often times conversations are struck up for the sake of conversation and/or friendship. We decided that there's no hard and fast rule when it comes to this, but that it really should be a case be case basis. That being said, I still believe that it should be worked in fairly early on to set the stage of the forthcoming interactions.

But what say you, how soon in should a person reveal their relationship status?

RobHeartsDH
June 6, 2013
Category: Wellness

Picture a tall, beefy, Jake Gyllenhaal. I've seen this vision every morning at my gym for the past few weeks. Massive arms, massive back, hairy chest, stomach, and a clean cut look to balance it all out. I knew he was straight when I first saw him, but that didn't stop me from striking up a conversation with him about what he was lifting. I figured, maybe, just maybe, I was wrong and he was just shy. Unfortunately for me, we started chatting, he smiled, and that's when I full on fell in love/melted into this meat head. The problem is, he's still straight and there's absolutely no chance that'll change in the near future/ever. And yet, I still find myself lost in the fantasy that every time he works out near me that may change. What is it about straight guys that makes them so damn attractive?

Well, for one they're unattainable. Issue a challenge to any man, gay or straight, and see how hard they fight to win. Then you've got the raw masculinity that so many of these straights exude. Not all, but many. And in a gay world where so many are seeking out "masc" men there's something inherently appealing about a man who need not be questioned about it. Then of course there are the millions upon millions of porn fantasies that have been put upon us all, whether it be a locker room, frat house, or bait and switch scene, a straight guy's first time is just fucking hot.

But the reality is, just as there's no hope any of us will switch teams, you're looking at a dead end. No matter how many beers you fill them with, the challenges that follow wouldn't be easy....

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RobHeartsDH
May 6, 2013
Category: Relationships
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I’m all about giving people a chance. Things happen, people have off days, and I guess at the very core of it, I believe that people are inherently good. But at a certain point, no matter how badly you want something to work, you’ve got to put you first. How many times have you given someone you're dating a pass or two when they’ve done something you don’t agree with? Whether it’s calling you back, blowing off plans, or even cheating on you, there are a lot of red flags that we all seem to easily forgive. Once forgiven, it sends a pretty clear message that it’s acceptable behavior and that there’s a lack of respect that will ultimately play a larger role in the relationship. Now I’m talking about the very minor to the very major when it comes to the types of things that we’re all willing to accept, but they all yield similar results.

A friend of mine recently showed up for a date in which the man he was seeing showed up with two unexpected friends. But instead of staying and being part of a date night that was not what he had in mind, he simply told the guy that this wasn’t what he envisioned and that he was going to head home. My initial response was that my friend overreacted and his actions were a little extreme. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized how it important it is to be clear about what you’re looking for, what you want, and what you’re willing to accept. And you know what? The guy called him later that night to apologize and realized that he wasn’t being very respectful of their original plans.

It’s no big secret that I’ve been...

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