RobHeartsDH
January 7, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Republicans: When Is Outing Okay?

It's been a high profile week in outing. From Super Bowl Champ Aaron Rodgers to two (or more) alleged Hobbit stars, people seem to be breaking down closet doors that are not their own. And while it would be nice to add NFL players and a few more actors to the team roster, there's one outing in question that our community could do with out: the gay republican hypocrite. In this particular case, it's Republican Congressman Aaron Shock, who's been outed this week by noted CBS journalist Itay Hod. In a not-so-blind item on his Facebook page, he poses the question of when it's right to out someone. Citing Shock's disgraceful anti-gay voting history, he sees fit to call this gay man out for all the world to see. And I agree with Hod - if you discreetly come to our community looking for "our services" and then turn around and openly plot against us, you need to be brought down. That kind of hypocrisy should be out in the open.

There's a lot at stake when you're a public figure. In many cases, your livelihood depends on little more than your image and how the public perceives you. I would love for every closeted man to come out (public or otherwise) but understand...

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Official Daddyhunt
December 13, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

A few weeks ago, we had some fun telling you about a few of our favorite Gay Daddy-Son Relationships That Shocked the World. All this talk about Tom Daley and Justin Lance Black pairing up made us want to highlight three inspiring cross-generational couples who prove that when it comes to May-December loving, age ain't nothing but a number.

Christopher Isherwood 
and Don Bachardy
Life wasn’t always a cabaret for esteemed British novelist Christopher Isherwood, whose semi-autobiographical tales of a closeted gay man living in pre-Nazi Germany were collected in the best-selling book The Berlin Stories, but that all changed when he met 18-year-old Don Bachardy on a Santa Monica beach in 1952. Despite their 30-year age difference—not to mention it being the era of McCarthyism, one of the most homophobic periods in American history—the pair began a high-profile love affair that would last more than three decades. While their relationship was idyllic in many ways, with Isherwood helping his younger lover develop his affinity for drawing and painting and the couple frequently entertaining well-known artists, writers, and movie stars in their hillside Santa Monica home, it wasn’t always without its challenges. In fact, at times the May-December dramas may have seemed like something out of a movie, and indeed, it became one—“Chris & Don: A...

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RobHeartsDH
December 9, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

When super hottie Olympic diver Tom Daley announced he was dating a dude, it only took about a day or two for reporters to discover that the dude in question was Oscar winning writer Dustin Lance Black. After the initial shock and delight wore off, many people turned to the fact that Tom, 19, was dating someone 20 years his senior. Maybe it's because public outings are more mainstream these days, but there seemed to be an unfavorable reaction to the age gap. I call out the mainstream factor because amongst the gay community most men understand that age differences in our world are fairly common and mostly accepted. We've discussed at length on this blog the uniting bonds of coming out and being a minority which can oftentimes grant a strong foundation for older-young relationships, but it seems that there's still a bit of taboo when it comes to May-December romances. I'd venture to say many of those negative reactions stem from jealously that Tom Daley can't be theirs, but it does bring up an interesting topic regarding the mainstreaming of gay culture.

The Huffington Post is on the same page as us, but I'm wondering: outside of the gay community (or in) have you experienced negative reactions to dating...

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Official Daddyhunt
December 6, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

In the new movie Last Vegas, Robert DeNiro, Michael Douglas, Morgan Freeman, and Kevin Kline prove that having a blast in that rollicking, high-rolling town isn’t just a young man’s game. In fact, we enjoyed watching those four silver-screen silver foxes celebrating in Sin City so much that it got our devilish daddy selves itching to book our own trip. But what’s a daddy to do in the 702? Turns out plenty! Here’s just a few daddy-approved points of interest we’re adding to our itinerary.

Stay
Leave those overcrowded hotels on the strip behind and feel at home at Blue Moon Resort! This three-floor, all-gay destination boasts modern accommodations and plenty of great amenities, including a lagoon-style pool, multiple sundecks, a private Jacuzzi grotto, complimentary breakfast, free WiFi, and more. No wonder it’s received a Certificate of Excellence from Trip Advisor the last two years running and been voted the best place in Vegas for gay men to hang out. Owner John Hessling also deals out a number of special events throughout the year, including the Las Vegas Gay Sports Festival (January), Big Horn Rodeo (May), Lucky Bear Weekend (September), and their popular weekly Boys and Burgers party (Sundays, April through October).

Dine
Sure, the abundance of all-you-can-eat establishments might be one of LV’s biggest attractions, but if you’re a true foodie, step away from the buffet and book a reservation at...

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Official MISTER
November 29, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

Welcome to "Gay Founding Fathers," an exclusive series that goes back—sometimes way back—through queer culture to introduce you to gay men who made a difference, made history, made us swoon, and just plain made us be proud to be who we are.

Showbiz is a notoriously tough game for actors, especially if they’re not willing to play by the rules. Image is everything, and one misstep can turn even the Hollywood royalty into box-office poison faster than you can scream, “Cut!” But this week’s entry in our Gay Founding Father series, actor turned interior designer Billy Haines, managed to buck that trend with a career second act that was even more successful—and honest—than his first.

Born on Jan. 2, 1900 in Staunton, Virginia, Haines became fascinated with movies as a child and spent a great deal of time watching silent films at the local theater. Recognizing his homosexuality at an early age, he ran away from home with a boyfriend to the bigger city of Hopewell, where the two opened up a dance hall. But Haines knew there was more out there waiting for him, so like thousands of other young men with big dreams, he moved to New York City, working odd jobs, modeling, and becoming a presence in Greenwich Village’s burgeoning gay community.

He soon struck pay dirt. Spotted by a talent scout, who was taken by the 20-year-old’s handsome good looks and silver screen appeal, Haines signed a $40-a-week contract with mega movie producer Samuel Goldwyn. His career started small with a string of small supporting roles in less-than-memorable films, but...

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RobHeartsDH
November 11, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

We all love a good list. Whether it be countdown or bucket, lists help us bring order to this world and make life more manageable. Over at Queerty they've compiled a list of the 40 Things Every Gay Man Should Do Before Turning 40. If you've got the time you should be sure to give it a read and cross off a few things on the list. But for the purposes of this post, we're going to do a little bit of crowd sourcing. You see, there's plenty to do before 40, but we want to know what are those very specific things that you can only do after 40. Let's compile a list that's speaks to the good the, the bad, and the ugly of post 40 life and all those special privileges that only a seasoned man of this world gets to enjoy.

We want you to have fun with it, so if it's no longer staying out till 6 AM or owning property send it our way. Chat with your friends and bring back some good ones and when we've got 40 worthy entries we'll post the article for all the enjoy and adhere to. Let's make this the list for the post 40 crowd. Now get to it!

RobHeartsDH
October 21, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

Hard to believe, but it was 10 years ago that Queer Eye for the Straight Guy opened the flood gates and unleashed a whole lot of gay on TV screens across the US. Sure there were gay characters on TV, but this was the beginning of something bigger and one of the first times that an entire show was cast with all gay men. With the reality and makeover craze at it's peak, these 5 men were able to win over hearts and minds with their humor and expertise and transformed hetero norms for the better. Sure it was stereotypical, but it was only the beginning of an onslaught of gay characters that have brought about the highest representation of LBGT characters on TV ever.

This week, Andy Cohen hosted the Fab Five for a reunion special where the boys dished on their favorites episodes, body grooming, hookups, and what it meant to be out and proud on TV. I think for many of us, the extremely favorable public response to this show signaled a change in the way the rest of the world thought of us. Coupled with Will & Grace, it made everyone want a Gay BFF who could make them over and style their husbands as well. Whether that was actually the case is another story, but for a little gay reality show on little watched Bravo it ultimately made for a big change in the world.

Were you a Queer Eye fan? Did it change the way straight...

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RobHeartsDH
October 14, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Spooky Bear Weekend

It's almost that time of year again. The best gay holiday there is! No, not Pride. Halloween! It's a day where we can unleash our secret fetishes on an unknowing public and role play loudly and proudly all night long! What better day than for the gays to put their creativity and theme party prowess to good use than Halloween? I've been celebrating New York Halloween for 7 years now and it's always a crazy scene. For an entire week the streets are filled with a plentiful mix of sexy and scary, and that's not even including the annual Village Halloween Parade. There are always plenty of parties that end up being a blast, but this year I needed a venue change. I've heard New Orleans is one of the best cities for Halloween and that was in consideration until I heard about Spooky Bear Weekend in Provincetown.

For years I've heard Provincetown is great in the off season, but Halloween is one of their especially fun weeks (the bear factor pretty much ensures that). And after reading up on it, I'm heading straight up to see what it's all about. But now comes the tricky part of choosing a costume. Given the audience, it's probably best to show a little hair, but I want to up my game this year and create something clever. Any daddies out there good with a sewing machine? Being in a new city should contribute to the adventure factor that comes with Halloween. You usually never really know the people you meet till you see them out of costume, but...

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RobHeartDH
October 9, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Cubcake

Loving how much work was put into this video promoting San Francisco Bear Pride. Not only is it adorable and sexy but also extremely well executed. Those San Franciscans sure are talented. Also, who knew that bear related events had so many ties to food? The festivities run Thursday, November 7th - Monday, November 11th, 2013 and judging from the video line up there seems to be something for everybody, including performances from the very cute and talented Matt Alber, Jeb Havens, and Big Dipper.

We've posed the question before, but given the many gay subcultures our community has, do you feel like separate Prides enhance or dilute our celebrations?

Official Daddyhunt
October 7, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

Welcome to "Gay Founding Fathers," a new series that goes back—sometimes way back—through queer culture to introduce you to gay men who made a difference, made history, made us swoon, and just plain made us be proud to be who we are.

In the past couple of years, we've seen more gay athletes coming out of the closet than ever before (YES!), but only time will tell if sportsmen like Wade Davis, Jason Collins, and Robbie Roberts will be remembered for their achievements on the playing field as much as the moves they made off of it. With football season in full swing, we can't help but recognize one of the golden boys who managed to do both: All-American linebacker Jackie Walker.

Athletically gifted, smart, good looking, and humble to a fault, Walker's greatness was already being predicted when he became the first African American to attend the University of Tennessee on scholarship, in 1970. And the freshman from Knoxville wasted no time in making good on his promise. Despite not being a senior, his teammates elected him captain for the '71 season, making him the first African-American to lead an SEC team, and he shattered a number of NCAA records, including making the most number of career interceptions converted into touchdowns, a title that he still holds to this day.

After completing college as a four-time All-American, Walker was drafted to the San Francisco 49ers and he seemed destined for a bright future in football. But strangely, he was cut from the team before the season even...

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