RobHeartsDH
March 29, 2012
Category: Dating
The Missing Piece Meets the Big O

For those of your frustrated with dating, men, and relationships in general, I'm hoping this post finds you. I honestly don't why know it hasn't occurred to me before to share this with all of you, but it's time I give you the gift of The Missing Piece. I rediscovered Shel Silverstein's The Missing Piece Meets the Big O about 10 years ago and what I had initially dismissed as a children's book changed me forever. Upon re-reading it as a dating adult, I came to realize that it's the perfect summation of dating and relationships. You wouldn't think a book of line drawings could be profound, but it really nails what it's like to put yourself out there in the dating world. Better yet, the message it leaves with you with is one that every couple, gay or straight, should carry with them always. Ultimately, it's not about fitting into someone else's life but about becoming two whole individuals who can roll through life together, as equals, side by side.

Now before you dismiss this post, take a minute to read the book here or watch the video below. I promise you'll find this tiny little triangle relatable and ultimately inspiring.

Let's get the discussion rolling: have you had similar experiences with dating?

January 7, 2012
Category: Dating
Do you love Daddyhunt/MISTER? Have a story to share? We want YOU!
It’s been over a month since we released MISTER and your response has been awesome. We’ve heard your feedback and are working hard to add many requests to a new update launching later this month along with an Android version. Thousands of you have downloaded MISTER and there’s been more activity on Daddyhunt than ever before.

To keep the ball rolling, we’re talking to press to help introduce MISTER to the world and we’d love YOUR help! We’re looking for MISTER men to share to their feedback, stories, and experiences meeting like-minded, serious men on MISTER. We believe the people on Daddyhunt and MISTER are what make it a unique and pleasurable place to meet great guys and we’d like to feature a few members in some upcoming articles.

If you’ve enjoyed your experience on MISTER and Daddyhunt and would be cool with being interviewed in the press about it, please fill out the info below. Participation is 100% voluntary - everything you share within the community is private and always will be - but for those of you that love the limelight, this is for you!

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RobHeartsDH
December 26, 2011
Category: Dating

Now that the holiday madness is over, it's time to talk family. There's a stigma around May-December romances within both the gay and straight communities, that they're a sort of sycophantic relationship. That one is using the other for youth, money, or any number of things. For this reason, bringing home an older or younger boyfriend home to the family (or even to your friends) can be a bit of an awkward situation. But the best thing you can do for your family and your lover is to prep them ahead of time. Bringing home your boyfriend or partner to meet the family is never an easy situation, regardless or age differences. Whether you have judgey aunt or a disapproving father, meeting the fam is always a production. The best advice I can give, is to prep both sides as much as you can before the actual introduction. In most cases though, if you're genuinely happy, families can see that and any other factors that may come into play just wash away. That's of course, a best case scenario, but as with everything else, being open and honest about the situation is the best way to go.

We'd love to hear your stories and advice on how best to approach the situation. Did any of you bring home your older or younger boyfriends for the first time this year?

Let us know what you think is the best approach.

RobHeartsDH
November 11, 2011
Category: Dating
SSSS

Who knew studying Craig's List Missed Connections could be so fascinating? This week The Village Voice interviewed Ingrid Burrington, who has been processing the self made serendipity of Missed Connection ads into viable data. Her findings are pretty interesting, like that Equinox gyms are cruisier than New York Sports Clubs, and include pie charts and maps of the most common places and phrases found on the site. The world of missed connections is interesting all on it it's own, so to have someone doing in depth analysis on the posts makes for a good read.

There was a time in my life when I would go out into the world, see a guy I was attracted to, stare, debate, overthink, and ultimately do nothing about, only to regret it for days at a time. Didn't matter if it was at a gay bar, on the street, or at a party, the result was always the same: days of beating myself up about not making a proper move. Which is why I depended so heavily on Craig's List Missed Connections to do the rest, but rarely were my posts ever answered. One day I wised up and took the MTA's terrorism slogan to heart: see something, say something.

Whenever I'm out now and I see someone I'm attracted to, I force myself to go up to this person and at the very least introduce myself. Whether I bomb, make an impression, or the conversation ends right after hello, I know that I took...

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RobHeartsDH
August 5, 2011
Category: Dating

After reading some of the comments in some recent posts, it occurred to me that the comments section are great place to meet other Daddies and Hunters on this site. So today's post is for you dear members, in the hopes that you take the time to make your profile stand out a bit more.

Tell us what you're looking for, what you like, or just about anything you want to talk about in the hopes of snagging some hot Daddy's or Hunter's attention. Like we've said from the beginning, we want this blog to function as a forum for all of you. A way to converse and be heard, and start a dialogue in our wonderful little community here. Let's use this post as a means of getting all you can out of this site and giving your profile a spotlight with which to shine in. Who knows, your comments may spark a future post and you could be featured even more.

I can tell you from my own perusing, we've got some incredible thoughtful and sexy commenters on this site. It's nice to know that here on Daddyhunt, our members have an abundance of substance, and there's more to them than just stats and a few pictures. So I encourage you to get to know these men and click on each poster's profile. Who knows, the man of your dreams might be hiding in the hyperlinks below.

RobHeartsDH
July 3, 2011
Category: Relationships

Stop me if you heard this one before: You're on a date with a guy you're super attracted to. Everything's going well, the conversation's flowing, eye flirtations are at their peak level; it's clear where this night is heading. You go back to the house and get with the kissing and touching and...nothing. There's nothing there. No chemistry, no want, no interest. And you think to yourself, "What the hell is going on? I just had a great date with someone who 2 minutes ago I couldn't wait to get with the bone jumping and now that we're here it's not at what I had hoped for." What gives?

This is just another example of how seemingly impossible meeting the right guy can be. Because even though everything else is poppin', sexual chemistry can be your downfall. And it's not that either party is bad at what they're doing, it's just they there are different needs and desires that don't quite sync up. One wants a little more push, the other a little more pull. Or maybe they have a style of kissing that just doesn't jive with our lips. Or maybe it turns out you're both big ol' bottoms. My question for all of you out there is how should one remedy such a problem? After all, sexual compatibility isn't everything, but it's still a huge part of relationships.

It's been my experience that most of the time, real sexual chemistry can't be manufactured. If it's not there, it's usually not coming. However, it is possible, and I think smart given the stakes of finding a good man, to have an open and honest discussion about what you're looking for with your partner (be he new...

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RobHeartsDH
May 6, 2011
Category: Dating

I think Honest Abe summed it up perfectly when he said, “All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother." I'm a self-professed mama's boy as well, and as Abe so poignantly said, I wouldn't be who I am or where I am today without her. From accepting me as a gay man to sending me chicken soup when I'm sick, she's always been there to support me. And with Mother's Day coming up, I thought it only fair that we pay tribute to our loving mothers, but in a very Daddyhunt way.

Like I said before, my mom's been great with the whole gay thing. After she got over the initial shock, she was waving rainbow flags all over the place. She even came to a few gay bars with me. But it took her a little longer to get used to the idea that I had a predilection for older men. Probably because in most cases they were closer to her age than mine. Which is understandable. Even with my straight brother she tends to be protective. It seems though that outside of the gay world though, there's still a stigma against May-December romances. When I was 20 I briefly introduced her to an older gentlemen I was dating and while she approved of me dating a man, she worried about me being taken advantage of by an older one. Of course all her fears, much like her initial ones to me coming out, were not particularly realistic, but at the time they seemed so. In recent years, she's made peace with it and realized that it's not something that's going to change anytime soon. And while I haven't brought a guy home in a while, I know that when the time comes, it'll matter more about me being...

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RobHeartsDH
March 23, 2011
Category: Relationships

As a member and contributor to this site, I guess it's no secret that I like older guys.

At 27, I would say the median age of the guys I’ve dated hovers somewhere around the late 30s/early 40s mark. It might even skew a little higher than that. And while I have no problem with someone not wanting to date me because ‘I’m not their type’, or because they ‘think I’m too goofy,’ or ‘don’t like the way I eat burritos’, I do take issue with someone not wanting to date me because of my age.

Yes, I may have been in pre-school when you lost your butt sex cherry to the Cure’s ‘Love Song’, but I have a working penis now, complete with a brain that can process a hell of lot more than we youngers are given credit for. Sure there are things you’ll have to school me on, but the great thing about youth is that we’re very open and susceptible to new ideas. Heck, we even welcome them.

Connections aren’t built on whether or not I saw Madonna’s first VMA appearance or whether you’ve watched every single episode of Saved by the Bell three times over. They go deeper than that. Like we've chatted about before on here, the gays have one giant shared experience between them: the joys and pains of coming out. Common ground is inherent in our community which is why a 10-20 year age gap is significantly lessened by our gay initiation.

Now here's the part that really gets me. More often than not I've come up against concern from guys I've dated about the age gap. This is a valid concern and something that definitely should be discussed openly and honestly....

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Mr. Ron
March 13, 2011
Category: Dating

Whether it is hair dyes, skinny jeans, fancy cars, choices of dating and life partners, adding inches to our natural endowments or subtracting inches from our middles, we've all at some point manipulated something about ourselves that we think will make us more appealing. If not to others, then to ourselves. At least, that is our belief.

My mustache, like fingers in winter gloves, can turn pretty frosty. Depending on the day and my mood, a little white in my flavor-saver, isn’t such a big deal. Other days, I really want to look the age that many people guess me to be, which is usually about 10 years younger than I am. It’s a compliment to my genetic heritage and daily moisturizing.

When I peruse profiles on Daddyhunt I sometimes notice a huge distinction between a stated profile age and the actual age of the person. Specifically people I have known for years. Somehow over time these gentlemen have dropped 10-20 years and are miraculously 39 again! Mind you, when I notice this, I make sure to raise my chin so I am looking through the bi-focal portion of my no-line lenses.

Deleting 10 years off your age is like shaving your eye brows, and hoping that no one will notice what you've done.

Aside from it usually being obvious, the problem with deleting time is that the truth will eventually come out. You can’t lose 10 years without someone finding them for you. Whether it is a "curious" boyfriend who doesn’t mind riffling through your wallet or a relative who enjoys rubbing it in your face at a family function, the years...

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RobHeartsDH
February 3, 2011
Category: Relationships

Has this ever happened to you? You meet a guy, go on a date or two, and as soon people get wind of it they can't wait to offer up any kind of dirt, deets and/or stories about the man you just met less than 5 metaphorical minutes ago. Effectively clouding your mind for the remainder of your dates. We all know it's a small gay world out there, but just once it'd be nice to be given the chance to form my own opinions about my date before the peanut gallery chimes in. It's getting to the point, where I sometimes feel the need to keep up Bond-esque levels of secrecy about the guys I date, even amongst friends.

Friends, for the most part, are generally looking out for your best interest, but the acquaintances and mutual friends, they're the ones who masquerade as being helpful and end up doing more harm than good. Now I don't mean to say that all gay men are catty bitches, because they're not, it's just that we live in an age where everyone feel entitled to give their own running commentary on life and most of the time it's unwarranted and unwelcome.

I've actually been wondering as of late if a person's dating past is even worth knowing. Wherever that person is when they meet you, that is where your story, be it short, epic, or in between, should begin. Or is it better to study their history and learn how they came to be so that you can identify red flags that we may ultimately ignore?

I long for a day when the mystery of the person I'm dating is mine, and mine alone, to find out. We're so quick to google and facebook stalk that we know more before the...

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