Sex With Friends - MISTER Carl Sandler on "The Morning Jolt with Larry Flick"

April 15, 2013
MISTER Carl Sandler on Sirius XM Radio

A friend in need is a friend indeed, especially when it’s 2:00 in the morning, you’re horny, and that friend lives just 5 minutes away. Hey, we’re all about friends with benefits, but what if those perks involved more than just a post-shag baby wipe and a pat on the butt as you headed out the door to go back home? You know, real benefits, like engaging conversation, shared interests, and a shoulder to lean on when you’re down in the dumps?

Sounds great, right? Unfortunately, for many of us, those types of relationships just don’t exist. Let's face it, as gay men, we live in a culture where making “friends” means firing up an app, “networking” is code for getting naked, and hooking up is the new handshake—all of which make it difficult to cultivate deep and meaningful friendships with one another that aren’t rooted in sexual attraction or superficiality. The truth is we need to have these friendships, especially as we get older, but in this age of instant gratification, are we willing to buddy up with someone we don’t want to sleep with?

The answer is yes—that is, if you’re willing to make the effort. In his latest appearance on Sirius OutQ’s “The Morning Jolt” radio show, our resident den daddy, MISTER CEO Carl Sandler, sat down with host Larry Flick to talk about the importance of friendships and offered up some tried-and-true tips on how you can develop them, deepen them, and put them to bed (pun intended!) when they’re not working for you.

Click the play button below to hear how it all went down or join us on SoundCloud to hear the radio show on the regular. Who are your closest friends? Lesbians? Straight women? Family? What's the best way you've found to make friends as an adult?

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Carl, you're exactly right. What it takes is a different mindset, an altruistic agenda. Putting someone else first.
People may forget what you've said or done, but they never forget how you've made them feel.

Yeah this is an epidemic that just gets worse. Thanks for shedding light on it in a place we know the guys will see it.

Of course we have friends we haven't slept with. Down here, we call it "sisterdick" and you can't be messing that up!

I have real friends, for me there is a difference between a friend and hook up, my friends are not sexually attracted to me, if yes they won't be my friends, will be my lovers. Once only I had sex with a friend, but after that every thing changed, we will go ahead with the friendship for a while, but then he met his lover, he took his own way and me my own one. Friendship finished.

I agree with sagitario56. One out of the two will become emotionally attached despite both agreeing there should be no strings attached. One must understand the consequences of such free spirit ness in the long run.

I am thankful my friends know better to not even suggest such behaviour to wards me.


sex is not important to some couples.