Now is the Moment That Never Ends

January 2, 2013
Category: Wellness
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All too often we front load our new year with resolutions we break with the first three months. Even when we take broader strokes and just come with a few long running goals, they're easy to lose sight as the year goes on and life happens as it does. For the past few years, I've tried to come up with one mantra for the year to keep me in check. Last year it was to live 2012 like it was the last one on earth (because, for all we knew it could have been). This year it's to accept the things I cannot change and work hard at the elements of my life that I can. Sound familiar? It's a more action based variation on the Serenity Prayer. And while I plan to live my life by this theme all year long, it occurred to me that change can happen at any moment. It doesn't have to be the month of January to start making your life a better one to live. And that's probably a better way to look at the year ahead. Not as a way of putting things off, but remembering that no matter how far off track you get or where you end up that things can turn around when you want them to. As Deepak Chopra is quoted as saying, "Now is the moment that never ends."

A lot of people list getting a boyfriend as a resolution. But when it comes to meeting someone, sometimes there's only so much we can do. Being on this site, that's a really great start. But what about making yourself the best you you can possibly be? Wouldn't it be great if you could add a newly discovered interest to your profile? Or maybe grow that mustache or get that hair cut you've always wanted for a great new profile picture. Make this year about really taking control of the things you can and let the rest fall into place. Because it will.

What would you like to accomplish this year?

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Well, it's kind of out-there as far as interests go, but this year I'm going to try and start practicing alchemy this year. I've been wanting to start doing it for years, but never really had the chance to.

my goal is to keep taking air.

Work,work,work....has been my life for years. I've never taken any time for myself...until now!! 2013 is going to be about me....maybe not ALL the time...but I'm putting myself farther up the list from now on.

Hi, handsome. Try putting yourself at the very top of your list. You will find that you can take better care of others if you take really good care of yourself. You can have a much larger impact on another person's health and happiness if you are also healthy and happy. Also, while you want to avoid becoming self-absorbed or selfish, a bit of self-indulgence now and then can be a good thing. Good luck.

As is sometimes the case, and certainly was today, the random article I stumble upon is just the article I needed to read. Thank you to the author, and praise for an appealing, succinct writing style. Well done. Sort of like a Daily Word..

Great article. Remember though that thinking of something to change as an annual habit isn't always the thing to do and people who eat snack foods are not automatically incorrect for enjoying that sort of thing for sure. If you are Happy and you know it then don't jump in the boat of change automatically because some others are talking about it. Anyone who is Happy should not feel like social fads are something to suddenly jump into unless its truly a personal choice apart from a peer pressure sort of thing. Hope everyone has a good year for sure.

whiter teeth,thinner waist,smaller pores,longer erections,more out going. All things I can have a direct effect on. Good luck to all.

Most important is the friends that are there for life even as relationship stuff is pretty fickle sometimes. I happen to be lucky to have good friends where sex doesnt take place and theres a stronger bond there then with the average LTR stuff that is long term if its longer than 2 months. Hope everyone has a nice day for sure and stay safe for sure.

This year I want to expand my new found interest in photography, working out at the gym, really find myself and stop trying to mold myself into what I think others want me to be.

You know what they say:

You've gotta kiss (not suck off) a lot of frogs before you find your Prince Charming. Or King, depending on what you like.

Thank you

Victory in an eminent domain battle with blue (it should be red, the color of big government) state government. They've threatened legal action against me twice; a deputy could knock on my door at any time, serving me papers. I need God's help, so I'm heading in a more spiritual direction. Less time at this and other m4m sites. Less pursuit of carnality, porn. More praying and reading the-Bible-in-a-year in my e-mail. Not a politically correct answer. Some here may even find it offensive. Many on this site voted for Statists like BO who are fundamentally transforming this nation into something it wasn't meant to be, attacking property rights, other individual liberties, and the Constitution, all in the name of the common good. I find that offensive.

2013 could be the year someone comes into my life and begins to share their life with me. I vowed to never shared my life with another person after my long term was killed but people must get beyond tragedy. It took me year's to find this out but people do need other people in their lives. Being 54 and single for the first time is a new adventure for my life. Im being optimistic for 2013. It can't be as lonely as 2012!

somewhere over the course of the past couple years, inwhich 42 of my co workers (who were like family to me) were laid off and I survived, but was re-assigned to a chaotic and far more stressful position I turned into a 'less nice person'. Not super- mean, but my patience with others and life dimmed and a certain malcontent and prickly "tone" crept in. I felt depressed, angry, sometimes overwhelmed, and pressured by management. Doesn't help that I've been on an HIV med for 23 years!; it has kept me healthy but God knows how it affects mood and emotions. Also doesn't help that a wonderful friend older than me is developing premature cognitive impairment or 'dementia', a curve ball I was not at all expecting; that was more likely to have been my fate, not hers. My goal in this new year is to take responsibility for my feelings, make positive changes, and try to be nicer, kinder, and more patient with others, whatever my circumstances. Being Perpetually Pissed Off is not an option.

my goal is get a handsome bf .