Daddyhunt Blog Posts from June 2012

June 29, 2012
Category: Entertainment
Where the Bears Are

God bless you internet. You provide so many of the things we never thought we wanted, but are so happy to discover they exist. For instance, this new bear-centric murder mystery/comedy web series, Where the Bears Are. I've never been one to follow a web series, but I got a few laughs from the trailer and the several shirtless (and pantsless) bears definitely piqued my interest even more. Maybe it's time I give one a chance. The series premieres August 1, and judging from the trailer plenty of hijinks are set to ensue.

"From the creative team of Rick Copp (The Brady Bunch Movie) Joe Dietl (The Thin Pink Line) and Ben Zook (Jack and Jill) comes “Where the Bears Are,” a comedy mystery web series that follows the exploits of three gay bear roommates living together in Los Angeles, as they attempt to solve the murder of a party guest that turned up dead in their bathroom."

Looks fun right?

June 28, 2012
Category: Site News

MISTER 1.1 launches today for iPhone and we've got a buttload of new features just for you. Not only that, but v1.1 debuts MISTER MAGNUM, our new premium service. We’ll tell you more about the MAGNUM features on a future post. For now, let’s focus on the free stuff.

Age Filter

MISTER gives you a lot of options already, like sorting the men in your area by Last Login or Proximity. Then there's the different views: seeing your favorites (up to 99!!), who's viewed you and the global view. In this version, you can zoom in a little more and focus on guys just in your desired age demo.

We hear from lots of you (thanks!) and everyone’s looking for something different. Some want older, some younger, and some vary their taste from hour to hour. Using the Age Filter under Settings, you can customize your view to show the guys you’re looking for at that moment. For members who have specific tastes, it lets you zero in on what you want. For the rest of us, it’s a fun way to see an endless array of men of different ages simply by switching up your filter.

Age Preference

Age Preference lets you broadcast the guys you’re into. It lives on your profile so whenever people pull you up, they’ll know what you like. We want to encourage members to keep things broad - or you might miss a great experience! - and require at least a ten year range.

Delete Messages

We received many, many requests for this feature. You can now press on a message and slide to the right to delete it, letting you focus on the conversations you’re...

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June 27, 2012
Category: Health
National HIV Testing Day

There's about 200,000 Americans right now that don't know they're HIV-positive. Are you one of them?

Today is National HIV Testing Day and it's an important reminder to always know your status. HIV testing and prevention is something we should think about every day, but today is a good time to stop and think when the last time you were tested was and make sure you know where you stand. It's encouraging to learn that a record number of HIV+ people know their status, more than 1.1 million in the U.S. Now the Centers for Disease Control is working to make sure it's easier than ever to make quick and reliable testing available wherever you are, like your local pharmacy.

"Expanding testing access beyond traditional venues will increase the number of people who know their HIV status and help people with HIV get the medical treatment and care they need to live longer and healthier lives. If HIV testing were readily available at all pharmacies throughout our nation, millions of Americans who enter these stores and clinics every week would have ready access to testing services that not only can save their lives, but also help prevent further spread of the virus.

Currently, one third of people with HIV are diagnosed so long after they acquire their infection that they develop AIDS within one year. These individuals will be sicker, die sooner, and have infected more of...

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June 22, 2012
Category: Eye Candy

See the MISTER app in action as our resident Bear Cub blogger RobHeartsDH meets MISTER.

Check out MISTER on Facebook and be sure to share the video with friends and those fluent in Bear. Grrrrr...

Happy Pride!

June 19, 2012
Category: Relationships

We gays are often portrayed as courting drama . And while many of us avoid it at all costs, I can't help but wonder if it's inherent in our programming. Show of hands, when it comes to relationships, how many of you had a healthy, visible real life gay couple to look up to? And now one more time, show of hands, how many of you spent your formative years hiding, lying, and/or putting on a show to avoid your big gay secret from coming to light? Okay, hands down. I can't imagine many of you raised your hands for that first question, and that's no fault of yours. When I think back to my gay childhood there are certain things I cling to and they all revolved around story telling. Whether it was in the movies, on tv, or in a book, the love stories and relationships that I looked up to were all pure fiction. In the absence of a real gay relationship they're all I had. But the one common thread, and the unfortunate mark of any good love story, is that they all have obstacles to overcome. And there in lies the problem when holding your real life standards to the stories you grew up with.

I could go on about this topic, as I have at length with plenty of friends, but I'd love to hear from all of you. Do you often find yourself seeking relationships that are either unrealistic or require some miraculous turn of events for them to work out? Like the cold and distant fuck buddy who one day wakes up and is ready to be your boyfriend? Or the married man who leaves his husband for you? Or the troubled porn star/...

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June 17, 2012
Category: Gay Culture
The Last Days of Folsom?

Folsom Street East returns to New York today with it's mix of leather, street fair, and daddies galore, but rumblings of residents complaining about the event may make this year it's last. The largest outdoor fetish street festival on the eastern coast, is up against the new condos on W. 28th that don't want that kind of debauchery on their door step (even though they moved to the neighborhood knowing full well what it was). Joe. My. God. has a great write up of the current situation and sums it up best: "It's the oldest story in Manhattan. A formerly shitty area full of gay clubs, titty bars, and danger suddenly becomes posh. And out goes the nightlife."

It's a really fun event though, and I'd say pretty mild given the subject matter. Mostly it's a block party where you can booze and cruise all the hot daddies and check out some interesting leather vendors. MISTER will be there hanging out and giving away some swag, so be sure to keep an eye out for the guys and say hello!

What's your take on the age old story of gays cleaning up run down neighborhoods and increasing the property value only to be pushed out years later by the straights?

June 12, 2012
Category: Relationships

New York City is probably one of the best places for a gay man to be single. It's also one of the worst to be single and looking for a serious relationship. Then again, I thought that Pittsburgh was a terrible place to be a single relationship seeking gay man, and now it's on a list of the Top 10 Cities Where Gay Singles Are Looking For Marriage And Kids. Keep in mind, this list doesn't tell you the best places to secure a man seeking a serious relationship, but rather where the men are looking for one. Whether it's lack of options or lack of focus, it seems that all the friends I talk to around the world are unhappy with where they live in regards to being a single gay man. I've thought about leaving NYC more than a few times, but wonder if the city is really the problem.

So I ask, do you feel that where you live has negatively or positively affected your dating life?

June 7, 2012
Category: Site News

As if last week's article in the Huffington Post wasn't exciting enough, our Daddyhunt and MISTER CEO Carl Sandler has another one in the queue for a new relationship column! Having been in the business of relationships and online dating for nearly a decade, he's filled with anecdotes and observations on gay dating in the digital world. For his next column, we wanted to get our Daddyhunt and MISTER users worked into the mix. We're looking for DH/MISTER users to submit questions and/or stories revolving around the issues and challenges faced on dating sites and apps. Carl will be exploring questions related to honesty and fidelity in the digital world, and how couples of all kinds build relationships in the world of apps and online dating sites.

You can submit your questions or stories in the comments below, or for more anonymity you can email (use the subject line: HuffPo Advice).

Thanks in advance for your continued support!

June 4, 2012
Category: Gay Culture

With all the parties, parades, and flag waving, Pride month can get pretty exhausting. Some people like to avoid it altogether, but I say it's something worth celebrating. Even if it's in your jammies on the couch with a pint of ice cream in front of you.

Focus Features is celebrating its 10th anniversary by releasing their collection of LGBT films On Demand beginning June 1. They've got a pretty impressive roster of movies, including the gold standard in gay heartbreak, Brokeback Mountain, Far from Heaven, The Kids Are All Right, Milk, My Summer of Love, and Pariah. I've seen most of them with the exception of their latest release, Loose Cannons (pictured), the rom com about two brothers coming out to their conservative Italian family, and while you can't go wrong with Brokeback or Milk, I'm happy to see some light hearted love in the mix. They've got plenty of ways to watch, including On Demand and Netflix, so check out the full list here.

What movies would be on your Pride playlist?

June 2, 2012
Category: Politics

Written by guest writer, Audrina Benson.

In the aftermath of the May 8th election in North Carolina, voters were reminded once again of one of the most pressing issues in social policy today - same sex marriage. Though the amendment was passed, effectively only ending recognition of civil unions and other domestic partnerships since gay marriage was already banned in the state, Obama became the first American president to support gay marriage. If Obama’s views can, as he says, “evolve,” why can’t so many Americans?

Studies have shown that people who are outspokenly against gay marriage are affected more viscerally by images they perceive as off-putting. This could imply that homophobia and opponents of same sex marriage are prone to a knee jerk reaction; rather than further investigating the unfamiliar, they react off first impressions.

Probably the most influential element of psychology at play with those who vote against gay marriage is “motivated reasoning.” Because of indoctrination into intolerance, as well as the aforementioned visceral reaction, they look for emotional reasons to validate their opinions. In the end, the facts don’t matter - gay and lesbian parents are as fitting of parents as heterosexual parents; the legalization of same sex marriage in Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New York, and Vermont has not unraveled the fibers of traditional marriage. What matters is a passionate defense to the...

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