Giving Thanks Daddyhunt Style

November 18, 2010
Category: Wellness
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With Thanksgiving just a week away, I thought it'd be a good time to start gathering our thoughts on what we're thankful for this year. I've got a laundry list of thanks, but one in particular that I'd like is share is my thanks to all of you out there.

I am so thankful for all you daddies and hunters out there who've been engaging with the blog and contributing amazingly thoughtful comments to each and every post. I thought this before, but you've reinforced the fact that Daddyhunt isn't like a lot of the other sites out there. Usually you'll find a lot of bitchery and negativity in the comments section of gay blogs, but the majority of our commenters are incredibly supportive of one another and often times expand upon the post in delightfully unexpected ways. Everyone seems so genuine and honest, and that my friends is incredibly refreshing. I was really hoping that this blog would be more of a forum, and I want to thank you guys for helping to make that happen.

So that (and the fact that we get to see Jake Gyllenhaal's ass in his new movie) is what I'm thankful for this year. What are you thankful for?



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I'm extremely thankful that I'm an American. Having traveled and lived in various parts of the world as a military man, I can truly say that being an American, in spite of some of America's shortfalls, is truly something to be thankful for.

I am thankful for the beautiful environment in which I live, for the loving family and friends that surround me and for my faithful dog Wheelie. I am also thankful for all of the mistakes that I have made in my life and for all of the valuable lessons that I have learned. I am thankful for the many wonderful men that I have come into contact with and I look forward to a bright, happy and successful future with a wonderful man by my side. He is out there and it is fun looking for him. Most of all, I am so happy that I was born gay. It has been a tough but exhilarating ride through life. I am also grateful for America and the freedom that it has delivered to the world and I am glad that America and Australia are such good friends.

Living in the United States, I would imagine that I should be thankful for a ton of things that I just take for granted because I have always had them...rights, freedom to speak my mind, to assemble, and so on...I guess what I'm saying is that I am thankful for living in a country where we can take these things for granted. I'm glad this question was brought up because it has given me the nudge to really think about it. Of course I cannot go without saying how thankful I am for my family, my friends, my cat Garrott, dog Sophie and an 7 year old gold fish named Sandy, a steady job, good benefits and last but not least....Daddyhunt and all the wonderful men on it.

Thankful that we are sliding towards a global village of unity over a period of time (with the help of U.S. and U.N. troops encouraging democracy in countries that need to get a little less fundamentalist and extremist) that won't happen overnight. With the United States being only about 5 percent of the worlds population it is nice that the developing world is quickly getting to the manufacturing ability of the U.S. and then the U.S. can't be singled out for pollution because such trends will be outdone by the lack of government controls in China and elsewhere. Science and engineering breakthroughs in Europe will be their strong-point (super collider, stem cell research, etc) as the U.S. brush's up on episodes of "Sponge Bob" and other sitcoms. Most of all I am thankful that the we have helped in getting the world to start to get together even as there will be pains of separation from some old traditions in order to bring peace over a few hundred years but it will be a time consuming event spanning many generations.

... and is it a prayer...
... or imagination...
... coloring my mind with you...

... this dark lidded stare...
... pries for adoration...
... plies upon the thought of you...

... hoping the best...
... in gratefulness...
... and wishing peace...
... if in distress...

... because...
... your heart keeps mine...
... from failing...
... love...

... to...
... fordbear, beachdudeca, footsolegier...
... and the many others...
... whose fidelity and character...
... are helping me unbecome...

I'm thankful for that window of opportunity that California gave that enabled my lover and I to get married. 20 years of living in sin and now 2 years of legal marriage. Who knows? In the next 2 or 20 we may get full legal acceptance but in the meantime I've got my man and I'm grateful.

As I moved into my 50s a few years back, I found myself feeling profoundly grateful and that became a state that I live in most of the time now. But if asked what am I grateful for? Well I'm grateful for living at a time of terrific social change, with all the interesting and exciting things it brings. I'm grateful that I get to be blessed with living and working in one of the most wonderful cities on the planet, San Francisco. I'm grateful for my wide and varied circle of deeply loving friends. And I am very deeply grateful to have grown up Gay. It was a tough ride but one that made me strong inside and gave me both the courage to face the world, and they courage to order my life the way I choose it to be, not by someone else's book of rules. And finally I am grateful to and for all the wonderful men I have met here, many of whom I now count as true enduring friends.

We can give thanks to a general sense of creation without even necessarily being attached to any exact dogma on the planet. The universe is too huge for any planet to have it figured out but the general feeling of something much greater than our human species is not hard to sense and be thankful for and a bit humble too for sure.

THANKSGIVING 2010

I’d not have a clue what being thankful “Daddyhunt style” would be, but certainly I never thought to be blogging on any dating site of whatever type anyway. Then I thought, well, as a 70 year old gay man what might I have to be thankful for? There’s quite a bit, actually, so here goes!

I had a wet dream last week. That was nice; I don’t get many of those anymore. I’ve no problem getting it up when I’m awake, though visiting men in my sleep is another thing. And, this one was with a man I fell in love with in my early twenties—which I’ve not heard from in 40 years, and don’t even know if he’s still alive. Thanks for the visit, Conrad.

A few months back I told my youngest nephew (in his thirties), “If I’d known for certain that I would actually live this long, then my life would have been lived a lot more recklessly!” He didn’t understand, but the oldest nephew did. Anyway, here is thankful number two: I am thankful I’ve only one real regret for my whole life. That’s for when I let a friend talk me into selling my 35’ sail boat so I could go into business with him, instead of going to South American alone and running cargo between the islands. But I did learn not to go into business with a one-time friend.

Next (not in order of importance), I’m thankful I wasn’t successful in committing suicide over my being gay. Actually it was more than slightly complicated, as such things are. I was married to a woman at the time, and she was having an affair with a friend of mine, while I was in an abortive one with her brother. And, of course, god in those days was going to send me to hell to burn forever and ever because I couldn’t fall in love with women. I stuffed blankets and towels around all the openings, turned on the gas, and sat calmly listening to it hiss, filling the place with fumes. Then there was this loud “click” and the gas shut down, thanks to some do-gooder who’d built in a safety device. It struck me funny that I couldn’t even kill myself right, and the laughter brought me out of the depression. I learned, as a result, to laugh a lot…and at most everything. I’m laughing now!

I’m sharing this after all these years because of hoping it will be of some help to others. When all these recent spat of teen suicides happened, and followed by the videos saying, “it gets better,” I wanted, at 70, to add my two cents as perspective. Simply that sometimes it doesn’t get better—not until YOU do something about it. One of the things I began doing (in addition to laughing) was to literally fight back. I took on the church, religion in general, family, so-called friends, and I took classes in actual physical combat. Nobody, and I mean “nobody,” was going to push this man around again…my days of a ninety-eight pound weakling were over. I’m thankful I had the sense to do this (though I understand it’s not for everybody), but also what everybody can do, i.e. I actively went looking for new friends and a new family who would be supportive, and stuck with it until I found them. I’ve a lot more for which I’m thankful, but I’ll stop with two more …

I’m thankful for my son, Jonathan, whom I adopted in Ireland when his family threw him away for being gay. It has never been a “daddy/hunter” type relationship, but as a father to a man for whom I could not be any more proud if he were actually my own blood. And, I lucked-out, we are the kind of friends who can talk about anything without fear. Grin, really something to be thankful for, huh!

Last (but not least) I’m thankful for my being a gay man. It’s a gift from the cosmos to be able to bond, deeply, at all levels with other men. Straight guys haven’t got a clue.

Have a nice thanksgiving, all the best, Mick

Wow, Mick! Nicely done.

GIVE THANKS FOR the eventual freedom that DADDIES AND LAPSITTING elves worldwide will have someday to explore their fun when the world is truly free to be themselves. Do not forget the best holiday of all to be thankful for where a JOLLY WARM FUN LOVNG DADDYSWEETS is on display in many places this jolly season. LITERALLY EVERYONE wanted to sit on his lap at one time or another in life for whatever reasons. An ample lap to sit on is good because there is more warmth and space to feel babyish in and that's super great. Santa in red clothing items is really hot no matter how it gets analyzed by laboratory nerds. LIFE IS SHORT. STOP THINKING every once in awhile and Pinch that fanny :)

This is a sillly, vain sort of thank you, but thanks to the guy at DH who thought my pic and profile was worthy of being "featured" in the newsletter. I usually have one or two guys visiting my profile overnight, so I spend a few minutes checking them out and sometimes writing, whether they wrote to me or not. But in the 12 hours since the featured profiles was sent out, I have been viewed 48 times! (For the nerds among you, and how I love nerds! -- that's an increase of 4500%!) And to readjust my vanity, as the Universe seems to do quite frequently, NONE of the 48 wrote me! LOLOL. Still, I am thankful for this opportunity to respond to gay guys from around the world who found at least SOMETHING intriguing about my pic. I will post a more serious thank you in the next week, but this was too good to resist!

All my best,
Dave.

Give thanks for Daddies and Daddysboys worldwide where the terminology can represent an element of humility and submission to that which made us (whatever that might be) and every moment is a gift to be thankful for rather than see the Universe as something to boldly conquer and go where no dingbat has gone before. The conquering of nature is a somewhat childish approach where its like tiny little earth people in lab coats playing in a sandbox full of toys to discover in the sand while kicking their feet around to see what was always there all along and so man can not create anything that's not already there to play with in the vast playground. The ability to feel warmth and love for our fellow Daddies and Daddysboys is a gift to be thankful for as it is the Universe that has us on the leash and not the other way around.

Thankful for being healthy, here, on track and in love -

Thanks to the DaddyMaster of the Universe which we are all children of even as we are given a tiny little planet to play with and conduct all manner of silly business scams in the mean time. I hope all Masters children are having a nice day for sure. It still is fun to be king or queen of one thing or another in the short term while the brief opportunity lasts.

... hmmmmm...

... since already thanksgiving afternoon here...
... it's not too premature...
... to wish all reading...
... a pleasant one...

... may knowledge lead to...
... understanding...
... lead to...
... wisdom...
... lead to...
... true love...

peace.

laeth

Thanks to the last three years I have known him, He has since moved on. but he restored my faith in life.
Thanks to having a healthy life.
great friends around the world.